>>8986925>whenever I confess feelings>ranting because I feel like I'm the problem
like i said, a little neurotic.
therapy can help.
yes, you are part of the problem.
you're probably picking guys that are exciting sexually but not necessarily good at relationships.
if i'm dating someone and they start "confessing feeling" i get anxious and try to run away.
intimacy is hard and communication is super difficult.
maybe don't worry so much about things you can't control, like the future, and just try to improve yourself, gradually, day by day.
also, i think there is some truth to the adage that what you put out there comes back to you.
try to be a kind and understanding partner.
instead of confessing your feelings when you get to that point in your relationship, maybe try something different like asking them their feelings and then listening without talking about yourself.
or maybe you might just repress the urge to confess and wait until your partner addresses the elephant in the room.
the things that are attracted us to people aren't necessarily the same things that make us want to stay with that person.
relationships are compromise.
you can't always get what you want.
but, if you try real hard, you may just get what you need.